My grandchildren keeps me young!
Having grandchildren or not, I am sure you will like this story. Lisa Ayala loves her family and is blessed with two grandsons that keep her young. There have actually been studies done that shows that grandparents who cares for their grandchildren live longer. Same with parents helping their own adult children with things. So except for the positive in general with a close relation to the family, it is also good for the health. Then of course the small members in a family deserve attention and love, which also helps them to be good humans as adults. So it is an investment for all. But for Lisa, it is not only the children in the family that she cares for, she even works with kids. Read and be inspired!
Name: Lisa Ayala
Occupation: Child care provider
Family: Clarissa, Marina, Nick and grandsons Nixon and Xander
Lives: Fontana, California, USA
You have said that your grandchildren keep you young. What do you do together when you see each other?
Yes, my focus in life is to be active for my grandchildren. They keep me young and on my toes. I try my best to spend as much time as I can with them. My special time consist of playing, running and showing them that grandma Lisa will always be there for them no matter what. I want my grandbabies to always remember our play time and how much fun we had!
Would you say that you would be less active as a person if you did not have your grandchildren? Furthermore you even work with young ones.
I wouldn't say less active but it definitely helps to be with them. I try my best to be as active and healthy as I can. Not only do I need to stay active for my grandchildren but for my job as well. Being a child care provider and caring for different age children keeps me going to. I've done this for over 20 years and I still love my job.
My job as a day care provider allows me to love, teach and nurture children while parents are away at work. As children grow and move on it's very heartbreaking because I get so attached. In the end it's rewarding because I know they will always remember me and the tender loving care I provided for them.
Family is very important to you. Do you look at the value of a family, I mean in general, with different eyes now when you have reached this age?
Yes, of course! I was raised by a single, strong determined mother. She taught me everything from fixing cars to fixing things around the house. There isn't a day that goes by where I don't value the relationship my mother and I had. The most important thing she taught me was to be the best mother I can. I thank her for that!
Family has always been very important to me. After ending a 23 year marriage, I went through a very difficult time. I thank God for my kids because that's what got me through my tough time. My children have always meant the world to me. I never thought my heart could be fuller until my children began to have children. My love grows stronger every day. In matter a fact I will be a grandmother to another little boy next month, and of course there will be room for him in my heart also.
Reaching my 50's was not as bad as some other women make it sound. I've always told myself, "age is just a number". My goal in life is to live day by day, live life to the fullest, and to be happy. That goal helps me to be who I am.
As a grandmother, would you say that the relation towards the grandchildren is different from the one you had with your own children when they were young?
I have three children: Clarissa (28), Marina (25), and my son Nickolas (20). Our bond is very strong. I've always felt I had a great relationship with my kids as they were growing up. I was called the "Cool Mom!" which I loved because my mother was the same way. It's thanks to her that I am the person I am today. I love my kids dearly but yes, the bond with my grandchildren is a little different. It's kind of hard to explain. In a nutshell, I can enjoy them without having to worry about them. We all worry but I have all the faith that my children know what they're doing as parents.
Not all grandparents have such strong bonds towards the grandchildren. Can you as an ending to this interview give any good advice to succeed?
My advice would be to spend as much time with them as possible. Kids grow so fast, so don't wait or postpone seeing them. Let them know they can trust you, spoil them to a certain extent, make them feel safe when they're with you, and most importantly, show them lots of love and affection!