Meet the "Menopausal Mother"

11/05/2020

Read about a woman who manages to take also the problems in life in a humorous way. She approaches things with a twinkle at the same time as she can be serious. And when we go through menopause, what is a better way to do it than with a good laugh, even if we need mental support from our friends?


Name: Marcia Kester Doyle

Age: 60

Occupation: Freelance Writer

Family: Husband, four adult children, two grandchildren

Lives in: Florida, USA


I cannot start this interview with anything else but the book Who Stole My Spandex. Just the title makes one curious, and I know you have had fine reviews. What is this funny book about and how did you come up with the story?

I have been collecting family stories for years now, ever since my children were young. The book is a collection of mini-stories - mostly about funny situations we have found ourselves in with our children. There is also quite a bit about menopause and plenty of midlife humor in the book. I talk about hot flashes, weight gain, and all of the aches and pains that come with aging, but it is told in a humorous way.

There were so many funny moments in our lives that I didn't want to forget. I thought that by putting all the stories together into a book, not only would the public enjoy it, but my children would have a collection of funny family stories to share and enjoy with their future generations.

You also have a blog where you greet the visitors with "Hey, Menopausal Ladies!" You are not shy talking about problems like hot flashes and other things that most women experience. Still, for many, it is very private and nothing they talk openly about. Did you ever hesitate to write about this?

There is a bit of stigma surrounding menopause and unfortunately, an ageist attitude from the younger members of society. I have always been open about menopause because it is a common fact of life for all women. We are in this together, and if we keep our humor intact while experience the "change of life", it makes the process easier.

I started my blog nine years ago, the same time I started menopause. I needed to know that there were other women who felt the same way that I did about the changes that were happening to my body and my mind frame. In a way, the blog offers support and relief through humorous musings.

I have had many women reach out to me to say how the blog has helped them restore their sanity after going through some wild mood swings during menopause. If I can help finish each woman's day with a laugh, then I know I have done my job.

Do you have women from other countries as well visiting your blog? If you do, would you say it is a difference in culture how open we are about menopausal problems?

I live in the U.S. where we are pretty open about aging and menopause, but a large portion of my blog readers and followers on social media are from England. The English women are also very open to talking about menopause, and they seem to have a great sense of humor about aging.

Then I have had some women private message me from other European countries with questions. Several said they did not feel comfortable confiding in their doctor or their husband about the menopausal issues they were experiencing. I try to help them by lending emotional support whenever it is needed.

You have other projects as well, so what is on the agenda at the moment?

I started a memoir two years ago - one of a serious nature, but decided to put it on hold for a while. Writing it was painful and challenging at the same time. I missed writing articles, so I got back into that aspect of my career. This past year, I have published a lot of work with major outlets and have been making a decent income from it.

I write a mix of things: humor pieces, reported pieces, self-help articles, and personal essays. I'm also still writing on my blog regularly and running a humor page on Facebook called "Menopausal Mother". I am in a very good spot in my life right now, doing all the things that I love most. I can honestly say this is the happiest chapter of my life, and I look forward to many more years of writing and sharing humor!

Blog: https://www.menopausalmom.com

Book: https://tinyurl.com/y8nsshrt

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MenopausalMother

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/MenoMother

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